Monday, January 21, 2008

Just Talk

One of the ads to have caught my eyes in recent times is the new Airtel one where one sees two youngsters on either side of a fenced border crossing over to the no man’s land and playing soccer, followed by the punch-line – There can be no boundaries that can stop us, if only we talk. So very true.

A friend of mine is a few weeks away from celebrating the completion of his third year of a wonderful relationship with his girlfriend. Three years!!! And to think of it, I have struggled to make mine last three months!! “Don’t you guys ever fight?” I asked him. “No. I mean yes we do, but we shout at each other, say what we have to say, and we are okay within a couple of hours,” came the reply.

They say that a baby is born in this country every second. I wonder what’s the statistics of rosy eyed couples having a spat. A friend of mine recently started off a group discussion that had the topic as “Foreign channels are harming the Indian culture” as “Channels are of two types – distribution channels and TV channels”. I am sure that if I were to ask him to comment on fights between couples, he would start off by categorizing fights into the ones where the two individuals are shooting from their mouths and the ones where you just stop talking. While I had laughed my lungs off when I first heard the story of his GD, the categorization of fights does make sense. It makes sense because the type of fight is the difference between you reaching out and clasping the hand of your loved one and cold thin air in the middle of the night when you wake up after a bad dream.

So all you people in love – just TALK. Coz there can be no boundaries that can stop the two of you if only you talk. Coz you don’t wanna be like me, whose lessons are learnt after the bridges are burnt.

2 comments:

Unknown said...

Hi....
refreshing insight into dynamics f fights.....infact wen i first read d lines...a frnd of mine is a few weeks away from 3rd year of relationship it hit me hard coz my relnshp also happens to be on the same threshold.....
I could'nt agree more wen u say that "Just talk" and all ur problems wil vanish lik WHOOSH!into thin air....!!! But here i feel there is an inherent difference in d nature of a guy n a girl's way of fighting.....grls(at least d most troublesome garrulous kinds like me!) can go on for hrs listing reasons (however trivial) during fights and trying to mak d guy speak up. But den guys are like CRABS....invariably dey go into shells and dnt come out till dey want to...till der anger has cooled off perhaps....sometn lik d the cave man...who recedes into his cave to brood...alone...n does not come out til he has formed his opinion abt d problem at hand and found a solution to it...
Newaz thru all dis gyan dat i am givin , the point i am trying to mak is dat its inherent in d nature of a man to honor d adage "silence is golden". So i guess u were not unsuccessful in ur past reln becoz of keepin mum....but yes, i do agree dat d difference between lovers and soulmates is dat of having bare bodies vs having bare minds too (where nothing is hidden,whatever be d stakes!)
Newaz i am sure u wer nt my mentor by chance...and so i am sure wid ur vast experience ;-) u kno betr dan ur shishya does...but do let me kno wat u tink of my views?

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